27/04/2011 by Marketing Team.

How often do we decide that we can’t do something just because we’ve never tried it before? Or worse still, how often do we decide that someone can’t or shouldn’t do something just because we don’t try?

People probably thought that Kelly Gneiting couldn’t run 26 miles, but the 29-stone 40 year old recently became the heaviest man to run a marathon. It took him 10 hours, but after completing the Los Angeles event, he’s now set himself the challenge of swimming the Channel.

So, why can’t we cook? Why can’t we exercise? Why can’t we do all of the things we say we can’t do?

Is it that we really can’t do those things, or is it that we think we can’t do them as well as other people? There’s a big difference between cooking a 5 course gourmet meal and cooking a healthy dinner for your family, and that’s the important thing to remember.

The goals we set ourselves need to be achievable and realistic. Setting out to cook a meal that would rival a Michelin starred chef is probably a step too far if you’ve never boiled an egg before, but deciding to follow a simple recipe to feed four is something that most of us can achieve. And, the more we do it, the better we’ll get.

So what could you do easily today or tomorrow that would challenge this “can’t do” attitude? How much do you think this is going to build your confidence and to open new opportunities?

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18/04/2011 by Christophe.

What did you get up to at the weekend? A nice lay in? A bit of cleaning? Tidying the kids’ bedrooms? Watching some Saturday night TV?

Or were you out partying until the sun came up? Eat out at a fancy new restaurant? A romantic weekend away, perhaps?

Chances are, your weekend was a mixture of catching up with the boring household things that need doing and spending some quality time with your family. But will you tell your workmates that when they ask you?

Apparently, 27% of British adults exaggerate what they get up to in the spare time to make themselves seem more interesting. Most of the fibs involve going to a pub or club, going to a dinner party, or going out for a romantic meal.

But why do people feel the need to lie about what they get up to?

Are we embarrassed to admit that actually, after a hard week at work, all you did was chill out with your nearest and dearest and recharged the proverbial batteries?

Or is it because we think people expect us to have had an exciting weekend (because let’s face it, watching Casualty with a class of wine isn’t all that rock n roll, is it?), and we don’t want to disappoint them? Or do we think that who we are, really isn’t interesting enough for the rest of the world who sounds like they have a such better and fulfilled life?

Who’s the happiest one, the liar or the one who’s happy with what they have.

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