Tip of the Month - July/August 2011

‘Building your self-confidence’

Are we often limiting ourselves because we are lacking of confidence?
How often do we wish we had more confidence?
How resourceful do we feel when we are full of confidence?

It’s easy to remember situations where we have completed or achieved something special and felt powerful, satisfied and proud or situations where we didn’t even started on the task and felt sad, useless and annoyed with ourselves.

For example, we want to start a new hobby and meet up new people, and we know what we want to do and where and when it takes place but we cannot take the first step, we don’t feel confident enough to launch ourselves so we find excuses not to do it ‘I don’t have the time to do it anyway, I know it is going to be to difficult for me as well..’. We feel awful about ourselves.

So what can we do to build our confidence?

There are many things we can do to build our self-confidence and the following three are simple, easy to use and easy to remember:

1-    Recall the great memories – We start by thinking of a few out of the many situations where we felt good about ourselves, where we achieved something special, where we were appreciated by our family, friends or colleagues. All these memories are feeding our confidence

2-    Start with a resourceful mindset – If we are thinking that we can’t do something, we are not good at something, or simply If this is not for us then we are setting ourselves to fail but if we are thinking instead that we are going to have fun, I can always give it go, I am going to do the best I can, we are starting to believe in ourselves more and our confidence is growing..

3-    Learn from mistakes – It happens that sometimes we are not as successful as we would like and this is the case for all of us and the best way to deal with such situations is to move on by thinking of how we could this differently next time. We quickly move away from the problem and focus on a number of solutions.

As you begin to recall your great memories, to have a resourceful mindset and to learn from your mistake, you start realising how resourceful and flexible you can be. And over the next weeks and months, you will notice how different you are and how you are now capable to do more than before and how much, with time, you are stretching yourself with bigger and bigger challenges. While you are moving in the right direction, your self-confidence is growing.

Enjoy!

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